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Understanding Church Hurt and Religious Trauma: Why It's Ignored and Steps Toward Healing

I've been in the Church all my life and as a pastor for the last couple decades. I've experienced wonderful times, beautiful people, and true faith. I've also experienced things that were not kingdom-bringing and did not represent the Way of Jesus and His kingdom of shalom - Peace, Healing, and Wholeness. Yes, I've seen good things, but I've witnessed deep, unmitigated damage within the church. People hurt by the church. The very places people considered safe - weren't Church

Paul Willis

6 min read

Talking With Non-Religious, Spiritually Curious, and Nones.

It’s very interesting to me as I read how leaders and pastors in the church talk about the non-religious, spiritually curious, and the nones (those who choose non-affiliation of any kind). The only answer I keep running into is - build a better program and institution. Have better events, buildings and services. Even though the preponderance of research says those who identified as nones have little to no interest in these things. The only solution seems to be to do the sam

Theology & Faith

Paul Willis

5 min read

When Anger Feels Right—But Costs You Peace

Some anger is justified. Something really is wrong. Something really does matter. And if you care about people, justice, truth, or what’s happening in the world, it makes sense that you’d feel the heat rise up. But here’s what I’ve been noticing lately: a lot of us aren’t just angry… we’re angry and tired . Not “tired” like we need a nap. Tired like our nervous system has been running on high for too long. Tired like we’re carrying tension in our shoulders and replaying conve

Paul Willis

2 min read

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